Dear HSSS,
If someone takes their clothes off inside out, should the person doing the laundry fold them as is or turn them right side out? ~Cheryl in Livermore
He Said: Unless you’re running some kind of ‘Fluff & Fold’ laundry service, it’s not your responsibility. In my household, it’s the responsibility of the wearer, not the washer, to put the laundry in the correct way. The washer/dryer/folder has enough on their plate, so the wearer can at least turn the clothes right side out. If I were the one washing the clothes and they weren’t turned right side out, then they’d get folded the way they were put in. Come on wearers—it takes an extra two seconds.
She Said: While I generally agree with Shizz, I was reminded that some clothing items are best washed inside out to preserve the integrity of the garment. This does not apply, however, to dirty, scrunched up socks. Considerate people should unbunch those before putting in the hamper and not expect the washer to do that for them. Along these lines, people who don’t check their pockets lose the contents to the person doing the washing. That lesson gets learned pretty quickly when twenty-dollar bills are involved.
Dear HSSS,
Recently you discussed bathroom etiquette for men living with women, but what about a little guidance for the women who live with men? I’m a fairly neat guy whose roommate is a super messy female, and I have to share a bathroom with her. You think guys are bad? Help! ~Mark in Pleasanton
He Said: Having lived with women before, I feel for ya! Guys can be dirty, but women can be downright disgusting when it comes to the bathroom. I think it has to do with anatomy. Women use so many different products to take care of themselves, they take over the entire bathroom and leave us guys a little corner for our stuff. And what’s with the hair? I didn’t know Bigfoot lived here. My two simple rules for a shared bathroom are these: anything that goes inside your body (pills, feminine products, etc.), and anything that came off your body (hair, nail clippings, etc.) should be put out of sight before you leave the bathroom – either the cabinet or the trash, no exceptions.
She Said: I won’t try and defend a slob of either gender. Across the board, waste goes into the wastebasket, not nearby. And speaking of the wastebasket, it’s for small items, like Q-tips and tissues, not the empty box your hair coloring came in. After products are used, they get put away—this is not a drugstore shelf. And when you brush your teeth, please make sure all the extra toothpaste goes down the drain. Spray off the hair you leave on the shower wall, and then remove it from the drain and put it in the wastebasket. Consideration: it applies to everyone!
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